It’s inevitable that a brain scan of a woman having an orgasm would be in the news. The combination of orgasms and brain scans makes it totally irresistable. I get that.
And when I read about it, my first reaction was, “We need massive, expensive technology to tell us that orgasm “lights up the brain’s pleasure centers.” And indeed that is how it is being reported (as in, “During orgasm, activity… peaks in the nucleus accumbens, an area linked to reward and pleasure.”)
Apart from that, there are a couple errors in the article that I need to point out.
1.) Women don’t have a refractory period. This matters because it’s one crucial example of the ways in which we assume male sexual functioning is default the model of “normal” sexuality and interpret women’s sexuality in that context, rather than thinking about women in their own biological terms.
2.) Oxytocin is released in massive quantities at high levels of sexual arousal; orgasm is not the trigger for this. This matters because it counteracts claims that “orgasm is for bonding.” No, if anything AROUSAL leads to bonding; orgasm is not required. See Elisabeth Lloyd’s excellent Case of the Female Orgasm for details.
A broader difficulty with this kind of research is the very problem that Kaplan, with her Triphasic Model, attempted to counteract in the 70s, and which Laan, et al have been trying to counteract with their research on spontaneous versus responsive desire, viz., this kind of study can only show us “how the orgasm builds up from genital stimulation.” In real life (which is the life where human sexuality evolved) orgasm doesn’t just build up from genital stimulation, it builds up from relationships and interpersonal connections and how your day has gone and whether or not the kids went to bed on time.
I don’t mean to be a curmudgeon. I’m as entertained as anyone by the idea of jilling off in a fMRI machine, and I’m probably MORE entertained than most people by pictures of brains changing color. It’s just that I work so hard every day to persuade people that women’s sexuality doesn’t have to be like MEN’S in order to be okay, and that sexuality happens in and is influenced by the context of a whole life, a whole body, a whole relationship.
Do I think this research is interesting? Hell yes. Do I think it’s important? In the end, I think it’ll be really important for us to understand how the brain operates during arousal and orgasm, yes. Do I think this article is doing its readers any good? No. I think it’s reinforcing the idea that sexual arousal and orgasm are products of the mechanical stimulation of genitals, rather than being processes that are crucially couched in a larger emotional, physical, and relational context.
But it’s the most viewed and the highest trending article at the Guardian. So.
You’re swimming upstream, Emily.
I know, I know.


Great post as usual. After years of imagining I’m just strange, I finally realize that I don’t have to keep up with the menz in the sex department. My body is different and follows its own rules. The problem is… when two are together in a committed relationship, someone’s body rules the relationship and I find myself, again and again, adjusting mine to accomodate another’s the most. I don’t see any way out of this. Is this the way of relationships always? Thanks for helping us learn along the way!
I love this. I also love the idea of the brain scans and my little sciency heart just goes pitter patter thinking about it. BUT, I really hate how the information is used and interpreted. ::sigh::
fortunately for you, now neutrinos have over taken the orgasms in brain scans over at the guardian so at least they aren’t quite as popular news anymore.
I still think the best part of this study was the two weeks training that led up to the study, where the participant practiced masturbating to orgasm while holding her head still using a bell on her head. I may think fMRI is a waste of time and helium, but I can admire dedication to science
For once I totally agree with you
John Wilder
I don’t have a refractory period? It sure feels like I do.
Nope, what you have is “tired.” Physiologically distinct, though it can feel the same. I’m notorious for falling asleep while the boyfriend gets up to make a snack or whatever.
What about the time period where touching stuff in the genital area (and even nipples) feels just “off” and and painful – before it starts to feel pleasurable again? It only lasts maybe 30 seconds or a few minutes at most – which I know most male refractory periods last *a lot* longer.
Do you happen to know the physiology behind that? *is curious*
“It’s just that I work so hard every day to persuade people that women’s sexuality doesn’t have to be like MEN’S in order to be okay,”
The folks I travel with feel that for women to aim towards the male standard of sexuality is aiming awfully low ….
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